Every night this week I’ve been invited to meet up for drinks. And frankly I was annoyed. Do I really have no interesting friends?! The only thing to do is sit and drink?! Are we all this boring?!
Ok I realize that’s a little harsh. My friends are actually interesting creative and motivated people. It just irritates me that whenever I’m not drinking I end up sitting at home alone. Why have we all – as in the larger society – adopted this social rule that fun has to equal activity plus drinks. For those of us drinkers that drink too much, yet still are not waking up with a shot and boozing all day, these social norms are our worst enemy.
I do plan on packing my San Pelligrino for the next BBQ invite however I don’t have a tool for meeting one on one with a friend who wants to share a bottle. Last night a gal friend came over, bottle of red in hand, to join me for dinner. I was cooking and she walked in saying “I NEED a drink today!” We chatted, she drank and I cooked. She is NOT a problem drinker. In fact she has driven me home on many occasions. I stated I was having digestive issues so didn’t want to drink. Big Lie. So she finishes half the bottle leaves it in the counter for me to “enjoy” tomorrow and goes home. I stared at it thinking a glass and a hot bath before bed sounds nice. But Knowing there’s a huge chance I would just finish it and run to the store around the corner for “just a little night cap” I poured it down the drain.
I do a lot of one on one activities and so I’m not sure how to handle them. I e been with a friend that didn’t want to drink when I REALLY wanted a wine night and it was disappointing. So here I am not drinking and feeling guilt that I’m ruining my friends night!!!
Any tips or stories of “girls night” with a close friend that you all have would be much appreciated.